Friday, July 29, 2005

Dating season

When was the last time you had a date? A real date date? Maybe even a first date? I mean, the whole shebang – setting a time, meeting up, having a drink/coffee, talking about each other’s jobs, siblings, schools, hobbies etc, walking home together, having butterflies...?

One of the last times I had something like this was actually not with a guy but with 2 new people – a boy and a girl – who I can consider my friends by now. That one was easy, no pressure, no expectations, just plain joy of finding people who see the world similarly to you and who’s humour suits you.

Real dating, on the other hand, is not so easy. There’s a whole range of problems – the ‘do I look ok problem’, the ‘does he like me & do I like him’ problem, the ‘where to go’ problem, the ‘shall we ever see each other after this one’ problem and on goes the list. Generally I agree with what a friend of mine (an unrecognized Greek philosopher:) has said about first dates...
“I don’t like the idea of a first date. It means that you don’t know the other person very well and you have to go out for a first contact, which is going to be probably a bit uncomfortable and you have to prove something. /---/ Actually, a date seems very programmed, western, too civilised for me. I don’t like the idea that a girl asks my phone number and then I have to think of a cool place to take her. And then we go there and we sit down and start talking”

...but, once-in-a-while you can have the “whole-shebang” date, which is not a headache. It’s simply nice and fun and easy and pleasant. And I’m glad I had one:)

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

..and the girl was me....
and now we already go way back...all 4 of us

av

lee said...

i'm happy to say that i had one the week before last .. and it was way more than anything i had ever done before(actually, i am completely dieing to tell the story, but i fear it may be too cute .. and too soon to tell).. and now i've been off the market for almost two weeks .. and i have never been so happy in my life .. and i am really happy for you, luv .. and i know the answer to one of the problems .. the "does he like me" problem .. YES .. how could he not?