Tuesday, June 16, 2009

2 types of crisis

I suppose we're all familiar with male midlife crisis syndrome. It's when men at certain age are suddenly not satisfied with their lives and start acting weirdly. Consider yourself lucky if your guy takes on a ridiculous and expensive, sometimes dangerous hobby or buys a ridicolously expensive, sometimes also dangerous new vehicle. You're in a bit more trouble if the guy finds himself a ridiculously young and in the long run - very expensive - new lust target. However, if we think of midlife crisis as a phase that almost every man has to go through, or even a disease that he has to suffer to become immune to it, do we then really have a right to judge him? Shouldn't we actually be there for him in his moment of crisis, comfort him on his sickbed? After all, you'd be there for him if he had a flu or pneumonia!

But, this is actually not what i wanted to talk about. I want to address another kind of crisis. I call it the female sexual peak crisis. Most of the females reach it right around their thirties, for some it comes a couple of years before 30, for others a bit later, but mostly it reaches women in one form or another. Women at their sexual peak are extremely easily aroused, they need sex a lot more often than they used to and they think about sex considerably more often. They also enjoy sex more, because the body is ready and they know themselves better and are not afraid to be pleased in addition to pleasing. Technically, it is not a crisis at all IF you are in a happy and working relationship. More power to you! It is a crisis however, when the woman has to go through the crisis single, as it tends to provoke promiscuity, irrational decisions and sometimes lowers the normal bar of acceptable males. It can also be problematic if the female is in a relationship which has lost its fire or does not completly satisfy her. Then she starts looking around (considering how her body is acting, who can blame her) and adultery (also promiscuity) can follow.


It is also common knowledge that women's sexual peak is in their thirties and for males it's when they're around 18-25. Deriving from that, women in their 30-s should be together with either 18-25 year-olds or with men around 45 or so. While the young ones can satisfy their sexual needs the older ones will turn a blind eye to women fooling around because they're too busy with their own midlife crisis:)

Edit: I found this article about a study which confirms some aspects of my theory. Namely: "There are still major differences in the behavior of men and women, though, especially regarding the ages at which they are most sexually liberated. Men tend to have the most partners, and to think most about acquiring new ones, while in their twenties. Women’s promiscuity tends to peak in their thirties."

4 comments:

paoloindublin said...

Liked this post a lot....sorry I can only make a short comment...to busy with my mid-life crisis!!

best wishes,

Paolo

Hernes said...

Hahaha. An how's it showing - the hobby, the vehicle or the young bird?

economist said...

So, Kadri, which one it is then?

Hernes said...

What do you mean which one, there can only be one for me, seeing as i am NOT middle aged man :)